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. ^! r% P* g9 U& _) D mso-ascii-font-family:Tahoma;mso-hansi-font-family:Tahoma;mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma;color:black;mso-font-kerning:0pt">孝，如今还在于与父母交心、沟通，体谅父母的难处，分担父母的责任。1 {+ c! v3 g8 F& Z, Z) p mso-font-kerning:0pt">——" A* r$ `0 q* P% Q D1 p* |font-family:宋体;mso-ascii-font-family:Tahoma;mso-hansi-font-family:Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family:Tahoma;color:black;mso-font-kerning:0pt">对，这是从情感上关心父母，是尽孝的重要内容。生，事之以礼。死，葬之以礼，祭之以礼。9 o7 V+ B. [) R9 B0 Y$ @! f% u1 ~ mso-font-kerning:0pt">——# v: b. A$ t0 Y2 Y0 ffont-family:宋体;mso-ascii-font-family:Tahoma;mso-hansi-font-family:Tahoma; ) e4 [& {' Y6 M* A3 P. V5 \mso-bidi-font-family:Tahoma;color:black;mso-font-kerning:0pt">对父母的孝道，是义。如何尽孝，是礼。如何行礼，就是生而不违，去世行丧礼，祭祀行祭礼。《孝经》说：3 o/ I* C' M4 ~# d4 f ^$ Bmso-font-kerning:0pt">“* d9 B9 z9 _, f2 M# e( nfont-family:宋体;mso-ascii-font-family:Tahoma;mso-hansi-font-family:Tahoma; $ l1 [7 h& w* H$ U# C( smso-bidi-font-family:Tahoma;color:black;mso-font-kerning:0pt">礼者，敬而已矣。故敬其父，则子悦；敬其兄，则弟悦；敬其君，则臣悦；敬一人，而千万人悦。所敬者寡，而悦者众，此之谓要道也。) I2 g: F1 E4 l8 Q. y* Kmso-font-kerning:0pt">”; v9 ^+ _5 Z% c/ E o* Z/ F! P font-family:宋体;mso-ascii-font-family:Tahoma;mso-hansi-font-family:Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family:Tahoma;color:black;mso-font-kerning:0pt">礼的内在依据是孝悌，而外在表现，就是一个5 e3 M/ Z3 t1 @ mso-font-kerning:0pt">“ S0 W$ u! c$ h n/ w1 yfont-family:宋体;mso-ascii-font-family:Tahoma;mso-hansi-font-family:Tahoma; : E+ N, h" N. Tmso-bidi-font-family:Tahoma;color:black;mso-font-kerning:0pt">敬0 b7 c9 E# T* A4 tmso-font-kerning:0pt">”6 I) u& G+ Q: F5 | font-family:宋体;mso-ascii-font-family:Tahoma;mso-hansi-font-family:Tahoma; & R3 J% w0 }! ~1 Amso-bidi-font-family:Tahoma;color:black;mso-font-kerning:0pt">字。所以，如能尊敬他的父亲，那么其儿子就会喜悦；如能尊敬他的兄长，那么其弟弟就会喜悦；如能尊敬他的国君，那么其臣下就会喜悦。尊敬的是一个人，却能使千万人喜悦。所敬者虽然只是少数，而喜悦的人却有千千万万，这就是为什么把推行孝悌之道和礼乐教化称为+ p+ d% g/ l4 U& imso-font-kerning:0pt">“, }) T( g$ L% X, I font-family:宋体;mso-ascii-font-family:Tahoma;mso-hansi-font-family:Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family:Tahoma;color:black;mso-font-kerning:0pt">要道0 S3 t4 I3 y" F! Z O8 M }mso-font-kerning:0pt">”- i2 ~1 `4 Q" W5 ^4 Y) R4 H% e font-family:宋体;mso-ascii-font-family:Tahoma;mso-hansi-font-family:Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family:Tahoma;color:black;mso-font-kerning:0pt">的意义所在啊。- H7 A# b' Y# y5 H' u) k2 i mso-font-kerning:0pt">

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我这里显示也是一堆乱码，怎么回事

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  y, \! S! o9 n( E' \贾老师讲的不错，学习了，谢谢

贾老师讲的不错，学习了，谢谢

我这里显示的是一堆乱码！！

不错，学习了，佩服佩服